Recently I have spent a great deal of time trying to figure out this question. Also the idea that you you have to love family, this one gets way more complicated I think. Growing up we are told that our family loves us for most part I know that’s not always true for everyone. But what does that really mean? Does it have limits? Can we loose that love? If we can loose it did we ever really have it? So many questions that just lead into more questions. I have a family member that always has a way ranking of who has not disappointed her the most, so people have been push down so far they have no chance of ever getting back into her good graces.
According to Merriam Webster Love is:
1a (1) : strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties <maternal love for a child> (2) : attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers<After all these years, they are still very much in love.> (3) : affection based on admiration,benevolence, or common interests <love for his old schoolmates>b : an assurance of affection <give her my love>
2: warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion <love of the sea>
3a : the object of attachment, devotion, or admiration <baseball was his first love>b (1) : a beloved person : darling —often used as a term of endearment (2) British —used as an informal term of address
4a : unselfish loyal and benevolent (see benevolent 1a) concern for the good of another: such as (1) : the fatherly concern of God for humankind (2) : brotherly concern for othersb : a person’s adoration of God
In definition love say its a a unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for good. Sometimes in life I think we expect somethings that we don’t get, but when do we just deal with and when do you have to take a stand against it. Love is hard they say, but when do we have to move past what society thinks or even what we have been trained to think. Family is a complicated group and most of time worth the effort but when do you have to draw a line and cut the blood vessel.
Love can be unconditional but is it normally????